Feb 21, 2009

Everything is sort of okay

If anything is the root of my problems, it's the automatic negativity. I can't help it. Everything I hear runs through a filter. And one of the voices constantly lends me his interpretations. No matter what people say, it turns out negative in my head. What's worse is I can hear both versions at the same time, so I never know how to respond. For example:

What people are trying to say:
I care about you and I don’t want you to be hurting.
What I hear:
Your endless whining has provoked a reaction from me that will hopefully shut you up. Now leave me alone.
Which explains:
why if I try to talk to people about things that bother me I only end up more depressed.

What people are trying to say:
It’s important to act on your faith to strengthen yourself and others in Christ.
What I hear:
You don’t act like we want you to. You’re not good enough to be a Christian. All you care about is yourself.
Which explains:
my desperate, faltering altruism as I try to ignore the deep personal problems that hold me back.

What people are trying to say:
You’re a unique and fascinating person and I want to learn more about you and what you’re going through.
What I hear:
You’re a pathetic freak and I will never see you as a friend again.
Which explains:
why every time I start to open up to people I begin talking to them less and less.

And so on.
On another note, I have just had the best idea ever (well not really) for a piece to read at the coffeehouse on Wednesday. I'd better get cracking.

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

You hear the voice of self-hatred.

What did you read at the coffeehouse?